The process of getting to yes with yourself is a circular journey to an “inner yes”. This inner yes is an unconditionally constructive attitude of acceptance and respect— first toward yourself, then toward life, and finally toward others. You say yes to self by putting yourself in your shoes. You say yes to life by reframing your picture and staying in the zone. You say yes to others by respecting them and by giving and receiving. Each yes makes the next easier. Together these three yeses form a single inner yes that makes it considerably easier to reach agreement with others, particularly in challenging situations.
The biggest obstacle to our success can also become our biggest opportunity. If we can learn to influence ourselves first before we seek to influence others, we will be better able to satisfy our needs as well as to satisfy the needs of others. Instead of being our own worst opponents, we can become our own best allies. The process of turning ourselves from opponents and allies is what we call getting to yes with yourself.
The process of getting to yes with yourself is a circular journey to an “inner yes”. This inner yes is an unconditionally constructive attitude of acceptance and respect— first toward yourself, then toward life, and finally toward others. You say yes to self by putting yourself in your shoes. You say yes to life by reframing your picture and staying in the zone. You say yes to others by respecting them and by giving and receiving. Each yes makes the next easier. Together these three yeses form a single inner yes that makes it considerably easier to reach agreement with others, particularly in challenging situations.
- William Ury. (2015) Getting to Yes with Yourself:. HarperOne.
The process of getting to yes with yourself is a circular journey to an “inner yes”. This inner yes is an unconditionally constructive attitude of acceptance and respect— first toward yourself, then toward life, and finally toward others. You say yes to self by putting yourself in your shoes. You say yes to life by reframing your picture and staying in the zone. You say yes to others by respecting them and by giving and receiving. Each yes makes the next easier. Together these three yeses form a single inner yes that makes it considerably easier to reach agreement with others, particularly in challenging situations.